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Fightin’ words? How humility may help you avoid your next conflict

May 2, 2016 by Sam Hodges

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Do you have more conflicts than conversions? More disputes than disciples? If so, growing in humility may be what you need to avoid your next potential argument. Susan Lutz explains why.

Takeaways and additional thoughts …

  • The proud person can fall into the trap of believing his flaws are minor, so he can be tempted to think the person who complains about his flaws is making a big fuss about nothing. In reality, his pride keeps him from seeing the impact of his sin or weakness on others.
  • If you realize you’re already a mess, you won’t be so surprised/angry when someone points out your failure or weakness.
  • Instead of being defensive when people point out your flaws and mistakes, you can be thankful, as they’ve made you more aware of your need for Christ’s forgiveness and righteousness—and more thankful for them.

Humbly recognizing your flaws and the impact they have on others will keep you out of a lot of conflict. This recognition also has the potential to help you genuinely respond to criticism with thanksgiving.

If you’re wondering whether you’re humble, think about how you respond to criticism. Your response to it can be a pretty good indicator of how humble you are. And if you’re really looking for reasons to appreciate the grace of God more, ask your friends and family how well you respond to criticism.

Sam Hodges
Sam Hodges
Managing Editor

Sam leads the CareLeader team. As a seminary-trained, ordained pastor, Sam knows firsthand a pastor’s desire to provide effective care to hurting people in the church and community. He directs and oversees CareLeader’s content, making sure the articles and videos equip pastors with information and ideas that are strategic, do-able, and consistent with Christ-centered, biblical care principles.

Sam also leads Church Initiative’s editorial team and has written and produced a number of Church Initiative’s video-based small group curriculums. They include GriefShare second and third editions (2006, 2014), DivorceCare third edition (2012), and Single & Parenting (2011). Sam is also coauthor of Grieving with Hope: Finding Comfort as You Journey Through Loss.

Sam graduated from Howard University with a bachelor of arts in communications. After that he received a master of divinity degree from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary with an emphasis in Christian education. Sam has also served on staff as a discipleship pastor at Infinity Church in Laurel, MD.

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